With the weather begins to change

When the weather begins to change

Hey, just stopping by after watching the first week of high school football kick off. I can now sit in my chair and relax on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday and watch football instead of the computer screen. I absolutely love football!

On another note, I wanted to let you all know that Essenz will be changing up a few things. She is working on the mainstore lately and will be adding something. You can purchase every color separate or you can purchase each individual fatpack like normal. There will also be a complete fatpack of all 12 colors available. I kind of want to beg her for a fall fatpack this year. Who is with me? lol Also, Bologna in olive gray is available as a gift for group VIP members. The group is only 350L to join. I know some people hate to pay for groups, but you get a ton of free shoes and she is SOOO generous. It is completely worth it. GO SHOP! TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Eyes: Buzz– Bewitched eyes in ocean

Hair: Magika– Cardigan

Hat: Wicca’s Wardrobe- Emilia hat @ FAD

Jewelry: (Yummy)– Pearl and Diamond set

Dress: Wicca’s Wardrobe- Edith dress @ FAD

Shoes: Essenz– Bologna

What Happens Behind Closed Doors Never Stays There

What happens behind closed doors never stays there

What I am about to say has absolutely nothing to do with the photo or what I am blogging. I got curious about a few things today. First, I was looking around on my Facebook and saw that quite a few people were posting about this Ashley Madison list that has been published. This list contains the names of men and women who signed up to cheat on their spouses. I kind of feel like this ties in with the post I did just a few days ago about married people in SL. How do these two tie into each other?

Like I said, I got curious and decided to check and see if there was someone that I knew on that list. Thankfully my spouse wasn’t on it; however, I did find a few names of people that I know on this list. The emotions immediately started to flood of embarrassment for the families of the ones on this list. I mean this has been published millions of times and there is no telling how many people have read it. The other kicker is that the number one state that had the highest amount of cheaters is Alabama. This happens to be where I am from. I kind of feel like this is the case because people that I know in the south are more inclined to stay with their spouse from religious reasons than to do what is best and just end things in a divorce. Is this an excuse for the names being on the list? NO! I felt for the kids who will see their parents names on this list in the future. Some things go away and others tend to linger a little longer and I see that this might be one of those times where it doesn’t just pass with the next news story.

The next main thought was how is this list really any different from SL. What would happen if a list of people who cheated in SL and lied came out to the public. OUCH! Now I am not saying that this will happen or that we should all be terrified, but it was one of my main thoughts. Probably because I have heard so many opinions in the last few days about married people in SL. My first post had nothing to do with relationships that were sexual in SL, but I did have a few people who tried to spin it this way. Either they didn’t read what I actually wrote or they wanted to interpret things to their liking. Either way, something that I learned is that no matter what you say or do in SL people will always try to accuse you of doing wrong or lying. I can tell you the truth till I am blue in the face, but because someone once did lied to them then everyone who is like that person is a liar as well. The common factor you ask? We could both be married in RL. The simple fact is that with the events of this list, I think that we all should do a little bit of self reflection and realize that no one is perfect and even though your name isn’t on this Ashley Madison site, you could have done something equally as wrong at some point. It may not even be related to cheating in this way, but who are we to throw sticks and stones at others? Just a few thoughts and I hope this will make some stop and think about posting and sharing this list. TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Eyes: Buzz– Bewitched eyes in ocean

Hair: TRUTH– Randa

Dress and headpiece: Salt and Pepper- Audrey @ Vintage and Cool Fair 2015

What Business is it of yours?

What business is it of yours?

In the last 2 months I have seen more and more people talking about other peoples reasons for being in SL and why they do not understand it. I just wanted to take a moment to touch on this topic because I believe my answer might help quite a lot of people. The most I hear is why do married people in RL get on SL. The assumption that married people cannot log into SL for a release of creativity or for more than just pixel sex is a little closed minded. When I see people ask this question the comments always turn to relationships and sex. I was then told why can’t I just find something creative to do in RL instead of SL. I then try to open up the conversation and the minds of those close minded people, but I fear that this does nothing so I am going to go at this a different way.

If you are curious why married people come into SL and start relationships or have sex or anything other than what you might understand… then just mind your own business! I am all for trying to understand other people, but these questions go way past understand and begin to insult those that you do not understand. A wise person once told me a statement and I believe it to be just as true then as it is in this situation. “You do you and the rest can take care of themselves”. Basically don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. If you don’t understand it then do not hang around or fool around with people who are married in RL. Pretty simple I would think? I believe that I have a right to express myself in a way that I like and that way is photography and blogging in SL. If you don’t like the fact that I am married then by all means unfollow me. I guarantee that it really makes no difference to me either way because your opinion does not effect the way that I do what I enjoy. For those who do mind their own business please feel free to join me in minding mine :) TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Eyes: Buzz– Bewitched eyes in ocean

Hair: TRUTH– Priya

Necklace: Cae– Marrakech

Dress: Dead Dollz-  Astra in white (maitreya fitted mesh) @ Vintage and Cool Fair 2015

Shoes: Essenz- Boca Raton @ Festival of Sin II

Power of Patience

The Power of Patience

“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is “timing”
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.”
― Fulton J. Sheen

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Eyes: Buzz– Bewitched eyes in ocean

Hair: TRUTH– Karlie w/ sunglasses and color changing hud included

Dress: Dead Dollz- Vesper (maitreya fitted mesh dress only) @ Shiny Shabby

Shoes: Essenz- Amsterdam @ Shiny Shabby

Breaking Free from the Rut

Breaking Free From The Rut

Just a few recent thoughts that have been going through my mind. I have had quite a bit of people lately going and coming from my life. Some say they are going to quit SL and then some say they are just cutting back drastically and then you see them online for hours at a time and wonder when this cutting back was suppose to happen. Even I have done this. I come and go and have had a new avatar after I restarted just to kind of reset my life. Of course I wouldn’t do that again because I have built something nice on Tessa; however, I have seen a few people recently doing this even after they have built wonderful avatars and have nothing wrong. So why the reset like this?

I have been thinking a lot about doing one myself. Not officially saying I quit SL, because I do not think that is realistic. I think at some point once this world soaks into your skin you just can’t get it out that easily. I do believe breaks are a good thing and everyone will need them at some point. I find most do this after a break up or getting fired from a job in world. I think I just need to do this because I am in a rut. We all know how those feel like. I have made it a point not to sign up for any other designers or fairs coming up. I am keeping the designers I have for the time being, but I want to get back to where blogging was fun and I did it just for me and not for others. I hate deadlines and I feel like everything has one. The designers I have are just amazing… they never pressure me to post every single item and honestly I couldn’t do that if I tried. I thank them for always being patient with me and all of my crazy breaks from blogging. They make things better when I come back every time <3. TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Eyes: Buzz– Bewitched eyes in ocean

Hair: TRUTH– Arden

Shirt w/ scarf: Dead Dollz- Carolina top and scarf @ Tres Chic

Pants: Emery- Kerr Jeans faded @ Uber

Shoes: ISON– suede strap heels

Let The Leaves Begin To Fall

Let the leaves begin to fall

My absolute favorite time of year is the fall. Autumn has this pull which makes me fall in love. It of course has to do with it getting cooler. It’s something about bundling up in a sweater and feeling the cool breeze touch your cheeks. The colors are warm and inviting and well… I just had to show off this outfit by Wicca’s Wardrobe which SCREAMS fall! Right up my alley and you can get this Autumn statement piece at The Instruments which opens August 18th. Hope you enjoy! TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Swallow– Roberta TMP head applier

Body: Maitreya- Lara Mesh Body

Hair: Exile- Memory Bliss @ Collabor88

Headpiece: Wicca’s Wardrobe- Jude Headpiece @ The Instruments

Dress: Wicca’s Wardrobe- Judith dress @ The Instruments

Melting

Melting

The fears of tomorrow will melt away when in the right company

Credits:

Skin: Pink Acid– Masuku for Lelutka mesh head

Head: Lelutka– Stella

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Hair: Truth– Ami @ Uber

Outfit: Salt and Pepper- Becca Corsage and Skirt @ We <3 RP

Shoes: Essenz– San Jose

Bench: Pilot- flyaway bench in black @ Collabor88

Child Like Wishes

Child Like Wishes

I am often accused of being childish.  I prefer to interpret that as child-like.  I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things.  I tend to exaggerate and fantasize and embellish.  I still listen to instinctual urges.  I play with leaves.  I skip down the street and run against the wind.  I never water my garden without soaking myself.  It has been after such times of joy that I have achieved my greatest creativity and produced my best work. ~Leo F. Buscaglia, Bus 9 to Paradise

Credits:

Skin: Pink Acid– Masuku for Lelutka mesh head

Head: Lelutka– Stella

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Hair: Truth– Sakina

Dress: Dead Dollz- Bedelia @ Mesh Avenue

Carousel: {vespertine}- little prince carousel @ Collabor88

Boat w/ pose: elymode– Paper Boat

I’m Back!

I'm Back!!!

I’m back!! You had no idea I left did you? Family came in town and it is so hard to try to attempt to do anything with kids running all around. I checked my email once and got attacked with “What are you doing?” questions. I logged back in and just sat down… easy enough right? It ended up being a perfect time to show you two items which are kinda new. At least new since the last time I was able to get on… Enjoy and TOOTLES!

Credits:

Skin: Pink Acid– Masuku for Lelutka mesh head

Head: Lelutka– Stella

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Hair: Truth– Heloisa

Body Suit: Dead Dollz- Marla @ We <3 RP

A Hot Date

A Hot Date

Just stopping by before I head out on a hot date. I mean the Perfect Date dress isn’t titled this for no reason! I also stopped by The Gacha Garden to do a little shopping. This is yet another gacha event with a twist. I posted about one the other day and I like both of these events. The Gacha Garden is a fun event where every 20th time you play you will receive a gift. This gift is alled the Seed of Inspiration. We all need some inspiration to keep playing gachas sometimes when we we aren’t getting what we want. At the end of The Gacha Garden, your seed of inspiration will not be sold again. This is a super kind of inspiration of course :) Now go shop! TOOTLES

Credits:

Skin: Pink Acid– Masuku for Lelutka mesh head

Head: Lelutka– Stella

Body: Maitreya– Lara Mesh Body

Hair: TRUTH– Bronwyn

Dress: FINESMITH– Perfect Date

Shoes: Essenz- Costa Rica @ The Gacha Garden